Internet Backs Wife for Secretly Recording Her Husband: ‘Proof’

The internet has backed a woman who had been secretly recording her husband while he slept to capture his snoring.

It is estimated that around 45 percent of adults snore occasionally, while 25 percent snore regularly during sleep. The average snorer makes a sound between 50 and 65 decibels—a sound level often attributed to the pitch of a normal conversation.

But it seems that nighttime snoring is having a bigger impact on our sleeping partners. Reported as the third leading cause of divorce in the U.S., 56 percent of partners sleeping with a snorer claim that their snoring has an adverse effect on their well-being.

One woman struggling with her new husband’s snoring took matters into her own hands, but her husband was not pleased about her decision. On Reddit, she shared the story with the popular r/AmITheA**hole forum where it has received thousands of upvotes and comments.

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A stock image of a woman struggling to sleep due to her husband’s snoring. The internet has backed a wife after she secretly recorded her snoring husband while he slept.
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The poster, u/Environmental_Ebb_81, explained: “I have been married to my husband for about a month and I moved to his country after the wedding and that’s where we now live. The problem is that my husband never takes my word for it or believes me about anything unless he has solid proof.

“For example, I am an English teacher and English is my first language and his second. He was writing a report the other day and asked me if the word ‘nil’ was spelled like ‘nill’ or with one ‘l.’ I spelled it correctly for him and he decided that he still needed to Google it to make sure that it’s correct.”

A few days before, her husband had come back early from work and, exhausted, decided to take a nap. “He then snored loudly before stealing the blanket off the bed,” explained the poster. “I was working next to him as he slept and had to get another blanket as it was cold. I thought it was funny and told him when he woke up.”

But when she told her husband about the snoring, he didn’t believe her and asked for proof. She joked that she would have to record him so he’d finally believe her.

“Every night he falls asleep before me so I’ve been recording him snoring,” explained the wife. “This morning, we got onto the topic of snoring and I told him that he was snoring last night, but, again, he didn’t believe me. So I told him I had proof this time.”

But her husband was not pleased with the evidence, and instead was angry that his wife had violated his privacy. “He also claimed how hurtful it was and how wrong I am, and how I need to see things from his perspective,” wrote the poster. “I explained to him why I recorded him, referring to our previous conversation, but he claimed to not recall that conversation at all. We’re currently not speaking because of how much he blew up about this.”

Turning to the internet to get opinions on the situation, the woman asked if she was in the wrong for recording her husband while he slept.

In over 1,000 comments, Redditors overwhelmingly sided with the woman, telling her that she was right to record her husband’s snoring.

“He can’t ask for proof and get offended when you show it,” said one comment with more than 12,000 upvotes of agreement. While another said: “This is called gaslighting.”

Another Reddit user said: “If you uploaded the recording to the internet, then I could understand how that would be a violation of privacy, but you didn’t. He clearly has some issues he needs to figure out. He’s taking it too seriously.”

“He has some issues,” wrote another commenter. “Sounds exhausting to live with.”

Newsweek has reached out to u/Environmental_Ebb_81 for comment. We were unable to verify the details of this case.

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