The internet has called a “manipulative” man out to snag his wife as she made two different meals for him in a new viral post.
Posted on Reddit’s r / AmITeA ** hole forum A woman under the username u / Jtr63677 shared her story to “AITA” fans to determine if she was wrong. The popular post has 8,000 votes and 1,000 comments.
Redditor begins her post by explaining that her husband is a picky eater. She knows what types of food he likes and dislikes, and she’s had success with her favorites for a while. She said he is the “breadwinner” and that any duty in their house is her responsibility.
Until recently, he has not been “in the mood” for the meals she makes for him, and he would try to get her to do something else for him. If she says no, she’s upset that he would “go to bed hungry”.
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She wrote: “I got tired of it because it kept happening. Last night he came home and saw the two different meals I was making – he looked at them both and said he was not ‘in the mood’ to eat none of them and asked if I could make another meal for him. I was sorry I said “NO, that’s all I had on the menu.” He made a face and appeared sorry that, and then he said ‘are you sure? …. I should go to bed hungry … wouldn’t that make you feel sad?’ “
“I stayed in my chair and shrugged and said ‘like you like honey’. He got upset and told me I did not pay attention to him and I do not worry about his feelings and if he going to bed hungry after working all day.I was quiet then he stormed away from me.We did not talk together until this morning where he said that my ‘as you will’ attitude was hurtful and dismissive and expect now an excuse for that, “she concludes.
Other Redditors were quick to comment in defense of the original poster (OP).
“[Not the A**hole]. I would stop cooking for him at all. It seems like a weird power play trying to see how much he can get you to do for him. He’s a grown man, he can make his own dinner if he feels the need to be so picky, “u / lihzee received the top comment with over 16,000 comments.
U / Miilkbby exclaimed, “[Not the A**hole]. ‘I would have to go to bed hungry … wouldn’t that make you sad?’ The emotional manipulation he spits out at you is disgusting. “
“I’m sorry for the debilitating condition your husband is suffering from, which prevents him, an adult man, from making his own dinners if he can not appreciate the ones made for him. I hope he gets a quick and complete recovery. [Not the A**hole]”wrote without ErisianImpulse.
“Stop raising a child in your marriage. Stop cooking. Let him cook what he wants to eat and put it in the fridge so HE can warm it up when he gets home from Big Bad Work. Do not indulge in such behavior, “warned u / NCKALA.
U / mm172 admitted, “[Not the A**hole]. It is not your job to ensure that a grown man who is perfectly capable of feeding himself gets food. Either he tells you far enough in advance what he wants that you only need to cook him one meal, or he can make his own if he does not like what is offered. Or I guess he can sulk and go to bed hungry if he really wants to, but that’s up to him. “
Newsweek contacted u / Jtr63677 for comment.